Let’s say you sent a text to your best friend yesterday, and he/she still hasn’t responded. What would you think?
I try to get back to people in the same day, but sometimes unexpected things happen.
One time I was in a car accident and didn’t have my phone for at least a day. (When I came back, there was a message from my friend.)
Another time my phone was lost. (When I found it two days later, there was a message from the same friend.)
Other things like that have happened so many times that people might think they’re made-up excuses, but they’re not.
Have you had times when people didn’t give you the benefit of the doubt, and thought negatively about you? Do you give people the benefit of the doubt?
You don’t have to give everyone the benefit of the doubt if it involves safety. I wouldn’t trust a random stranger to babysit my kids — in some cases, even family members can’t be trusted, so if it involves safety, that’s not what I’m talking about.
In normal relationships though, it always helps to assume the best about someone.
If you’re married and have insecurities about your spouse, let go. I’ve heard of women who were suspicious about their husbands going places after work, only to find out they were wrong, and their marriages were strained as a result.
Also if you’re getting into frequent arguments, pay attention to how you react — are you assuming the best about your spouse or judging their motives?
Deal with insecurities in a healthy way. Talk with your friend/spouse/family member about the thing that you feel insecure about — but make sure you give them plenty of reassurance that you don’t actually think that way about them!
Love “does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil” (1 Corinthians 13:5).
To have healthy relationships, always assume the best!